How to manage anger | Control anger outbursts

Namaskaram, I hope you all are healthy and doing well in your life.

The topic we will talk about today is anger. Anger is a feeling that surrounds our entire lives. Anger has neither the dignity of knowledge nor the age. No one knows when, where, and for what reason causes anger within us.

When anger is born within us, then immediately our thinking power is lost and darkness falls on our intellect. Our very old and deep relationships also break in a moment due to anger. Our whole life and our relationships get shattered.

For more clarity, you can see in a jail that most of the criminals will be seen to bear the penalty of their moment's anger. But still we are not able to control our anger. Again and again we pledge not to be angry, but again and again we become angry. And gradually after a long time, anger gets ingrained in our habits.

To understand all these confusing things, we have to get answers to some questions like - 

What is this anger really? After all, why does anger take birth? And why is anger not under control?

Although we can understand the answers to all the above questions on many levels, but we will try to understand it with an example. You see a child. He responds when he wants something and at that time if he does not get that thing or if someone intimidates him. The child's response is anger. Because the child is weak and helpless, through anger, he tries to make his elders realize their existence and deserve their own existence.

Now think to yourself that we don't do this even when we grow up? Is anger not the reaction of a child sitting within us? That is, is anger not really just child-like behavior?

See, when our ego is injured or when we are afraid or when we do not get something, then we get angry just like a child. And we know very well that anger and stubbornness adorns children and does not suit elders. But still we do not stop rage like a child.

We know from experience and by looking at others we can tell that nothing is ever achieved by anger. Whether it is respect or property or love or security, none of these things comes from anger. We get all this through our efforts and due consideration.

We only live according to our habits. That is why anger also becomes our habit. We do not stop our reactions even when we want. We consider ourselves as big or capable, but the child within us becomes angry with little reason. That is, anger is really nothing but the name of our child intellect.

If you just keep in mind that you are not a child, childlike behavior does not suit you. Then you will definitely see that your anger is destroyed by itself.

Also, whenever you have anger in your heart, at that moment if you consider the ill effects of anger instead of reacting to anger, then you can definitely control your anger.

Please consider all these things, think, contemplate.

Thank you!

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Condemning is critically not criticism

Namaskaram, I hope you all are healthy and doing well in your life.

Condemnation and Criticism

In today's article, we will talk about condemnation and criticism. Because in my experience many people are not clear about condemnation and criticism.

See, it is written in the scriptures and, saints and many thinkers have always said that condemnation is a big problem and defect. Because of condemnation not only the love to a person and society is destroyed but also the truth of our own soul is destroyed. And we know that the destruction of truth has been considered the biggest problem and the biggest curse.

Now surely a question must be coming in your mind- 

how can truth be destroyed by condemnation?

See, first of all we have to understand that what is condemnation? What is the real meaning of condemnation? Perhaps you may think that if we do not like someone's work, then criticizing it can be called condemnation.

 But in reality it is not so at all. Because we all have the right to criticize. Rather, criticism is the responsibility of all of us. Because criticism only cleanses society. And the person who criticizes also has to work hard to prove his point to be true and he may have to explain his point on many levels. As a result, the person criticizing also becomes strong and influential from within himself over time.

Then the question is- 

What is the difference between criticism and condemnation?

See, criticism is always about a person's work, whereas condemnation is about a person's personality. The purpose of criticism is to push someone forward, but the purpose of condemnation is to pull someone back. Behind condemnation are expressions of hatred and criticism is followed by feelings of compassion.

'That person did wrong.' - It is criticism to say.

'That person is wrong.' - It is blasphemous to say.

We need to think deeply about this. Because any human being can change at any time. Today a person doing wrong and unfair can also become a monk or a gentleman tomorrow. You already know many examples of this.

We have to understand that someone's mistake or any inappropriate act of someone becomes the dirt of his soul, the dirt is not the quality of that cloth. That is, it is not bad to see fault in someone's work but it is unfair to see fault in someone. Because to see or show defects in a person's personality or existence is called condemnation.

Also, it is not necessary to give proof of condemnation. Because the evil of an action can be shown but it is not easy to show the good or evil of the soul. This is why we have great fun condemning someone. By proving someone bad, we prove ourselves good in our own mind. And we do not have to work hard to be good and do good.

See, condemnation gives pleasure to our ego. This is why we get addicted to condemnation while condemning. But we must think about what harm we have from condemnation.

When we become a habit of condemnation, we start resorting to more and more untruths. Due to which, the truth is slowly destroyed from our heart. In addition, condemnation has both effects. The reputation of the one we condemn decreases. And the soul of the slanderer breaks.

In the end, I just request you to think, meditate, contemplate all these subjects.

Thank you.

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Cause of depression and anxiety

Namaskaram, I hope you all are healthy and doing well in your life.

Depression

In today's day-to-day life, people are struggling with many types of negative things. Which includes fear, sorrow, anxiety, depression and many other things. And sometimes these things also become the reason for their suicide.

According to an estimate by the World Health Organization [WHO], approximately 1 million people worldwide are dying by suicide each year, representing 1 global death every 40 seconds. According to the WHO it is also predicted that by 2020 the death rate will be 1 every 20 seconds.

This is not a small thing. We cannot ignore it at all. Because 'Our life do not only belong to us. From our birth until our death...We are tied to others. In the past and in the future, And with every crime and very good act... We define our future'.

Now the question must be arising in your mind that why does a person commit suicide?

See, if we just look at it as a life, rather than seeing it as a special person, one of the most fundamental reasons is simply that "a human breaks from the inside". The result of which can be suicide, depression or any other disease. But life does not break.

So we just have to see it as a life. Not as someone you loved or who was close to or loved by you. Because when someone commits suicide or someone dies, you get emotional. You feel that this is the end of the world but after the next few days you again return to your normal life. Everything starts running almost the same way and you forget about it. This process continues like this again and again.

So instead of seeing it as a person, you just see it as a life that 'why does one life do this?'

Many aspects of this may be possible. But a fundamental aspect of it is that 'life experience is not very pleasant'. Because you have kept your pleasant experience captive of success or money or relations or needs or many other things in the world.

If people fail in something, they will commit suicide. If a love affair breaks up, someone will commit suicide. If someone loses his wealth, he will commit suicide. Because you are unfortunately gathering your wealth, your house, your relationship, your family, your work, your position, your name etc. together and carry it.

See, the life inside us always wants to live. He always wants to get the highest peak. But life is always full of gaiety and enthusiasm. You are mentally vulnerable to depression.

Today you are entangled in the logical dimension of your mind. Your understanding says one thing, but your reasoned thinking says something else. Along with this, the repetitive nature of your daily routine life can also be the cause of depression.

See, you have to understand this. Too many argumentative moments are moments of suicide. Depression means that 'you are gradually committing suicide partly'. If you give logic too much space in your life, then your vivacity will decrease. You should only apply logic to the physical aspects of life. If you apply logic to life itself then you will be a victim of depression.

If you delete everything that means something to you. And then ensure your life rationally. Then you will definitely be a victim of depression.

See, the most valuable thing in your life is life itself. 'Where do you live, what do you wear, what do you eat, what vehicle do you have' are all the accessories of your life. You are alive right now, this is the biggest happiness.

You have to understand clearly that there is no benefit from being unhappy, depressed or ill. There is an advantage in staying happy and happy. And even if there is no benefit then what is the difference.

Thank you

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A Well Try for Better Possibilities

Hi Everyone, I hope you all are doing well in your life.

 As I told in my first blog, my routine was not very well organized. But now I feel like  she is organizing herself better, due to which I am able to get up early nowadays.  Even though I am not able to do anything productive after getting up, but still I am trying to do something good.

 A great poet of Hindi, Dr. Harivansh Rai Bachchan ji has also said in his poem that "those who try are not defeated."  Although we will not talk on the whole poem, its title itself is making it very clear.

 Now you must be wondering why I am telling you all this, after all, what do you have to do with it.  But it has to do with completely.

 Let me tell you a story .  This afternoon I was talking to a close friend.  He said that he is deeply saddened by the religious politics happening in the country and he also expressed his wish that he should have been in a country that believes in a particular religion.  He even talked about leaving his country.

 In these circumstances, such thoughts can come in the heart of any of us, but the question is, is leaving a proper solution?

 Let us understand this by an example.  Suppose you are stuck in some trouble or quagmire, although there is nothing like trouble, it is a situation created by us but still assume that if you are facing troubles, what will you do?  Surely you can have several options out of which two options would be the most effective.

 The first is that you get out of that trouble or swamp as soon as possible and go away.  This is what most of us would love to do.  We always run away from things just like that.

 At the same time, the other option may be that you solve that problem in a better way.  Even though we may not be fully prepared for it, we can still try.  But most of us would prefer to choose the first option.

 Many such incidents happen to all of us in which we often get sad but still what we think and do matters. Even though we think that we are not fully capable of doing something better.  But still the most important question in all these things is whether we really tried to do better or not?

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A DATE that will be Remembered in INDIA (April 05, 2020)

Hi Everyone, I hope you all are doing well in your life.

Last night I again told my conscience that I will ensure my routine but as usual I got up in the afternoon by getting up from bed, then what was it like always, I always refreshed and had my breakfast.  After that, I started reading a very basic chapter of inorganic chemistry.                                         

While doing this some two to three hours passed, but somewhere there was a lots ofgoing on in the mind, may be it could be because not only India but the whole world is struggling with Covid-19 for some times,  some countries are suffering from due to their negligence,the Honorable Prime Minister of india has made tireless efforts in which the most important thing is lockdown all Indians.          

There are no country in such a time which is fully capable of handling such a terrible epidemic. The developed and rich countries of the world are also shivering from this epidemic.

Although India, as our population is, according to it, we certainly do not have enough hospitals and  money so that the people of our country can provide the things they need for a long time. This can only be possible when all the citizens of our country work together in unison.

As the Honourable Prime Minister of india had called last night, tonight everyone should  light a lamp or candle or at least flash light of your mobile. Since ancient times, a lamp used to burn in every Indian's house, but now unfortunately people are seeing it as a special religion. But  fire is an important part of our life. Whether or not we will come out of this pandemic depends on whether the entire country should work together as one person. So let us all come together whether you believe in any religion or any political ideology. Because the virus does not affect your religious and political ideology, it does not have any effect on the basis of any particular person or religion.

                                               

Since at 9:00 pm tonight, more and more people of India have celebrated the work of lighting the lamp as a festival, certainly some of its scenes have been very enjoyable and a positive energy flow.                                   

Here are some other pictures that symbolize the unity of our country (India).

Thank you.

Hindi Translation : नमस्कार, मुझे आशा है की आप सभी अपने जीवन में अच्छा कर रहे होंगे।
पिछली रात मैंने फिर से अपनी अंतरात्मा से कहा की मैं अपनी दिनचर्या को सुनिश्चित करूंगा परंतु हमेशा की तरह मुझे बिस्तर से उठते उठते दोपहर हो गई फिर क्या था हमेशा की तरह हमने फ्रेश होकर अपना ब्रेकफास्ट किया। उसके पश्चात अकार्बनिक रसायन विज्ञान का एक अत्यधिक मूलभूत पाठ को पढ़ना प्रारंभ किया।

ऐसा करते करते कुछ दो से तीन घंटे बीत गए परंतु कहीं ना कहीं दिमाग में बहुत कुछ चल रहा था शायद ऐसा इसलिए हो सकता है क्योंकि पिछले कुछ समय से इंडिया ही नहीं अपितु पूरा संसार Covid-19 से जूझ रहा है जहां कुछ देश अपनी लापरवाही के कारण उसका खामियाजा भुगत रहे वही हमारे देश के माननीय प्रधानमंत्री जी ने इस महामारी से बचने के लिए अथक प्रयास किए हैं जिसमें सबसे महत्वपूर्ण है कि सभी भारत वासियों का अपने ही घर में लॉक डाउन होना।

 

इस तरह के समय में कोई भी देश ऐसा नहीं है जो इस तरह की भयंकर महामारी से निपटने मे पूरी तरह से सक्षम हो। दुनिया के विकसित तथा अमीर देश भी इस महामारी से कांप रहे हैं हालांकि भारत, जैसा कि हमारी जनसंख्या है उसके अनुसार निश्चित तौर पर हमारे पास पर्याप्त अस्पताल तथा इतने पैसे भी नहीं है जिससे काफी लंबे समय तक देशवासियों को जरूरत की चीजें उपलब्ध कराई जा सके,निश्चित रूप से यह संभव नहीं। यह केवल तभी संभव हो सकता है जब देश के सभी नागरिक मिलकर एक साथ एकजुट होकर काम करें।

 

जैैसा कि कल रात माननीय  प्रधानमंत्री ने आवाहन किया था कि आज रात को हर किसी को एक दीया या  मोमबत्ती या कम से कम अपने मोबाइल की फ्लैश लाइट जलाएं। प्राचीन समय काल से ही प्रत्येक भारतीय के घर में एक दीया  जलता रहता था परंतु अब दुर्भाग्यवश लोग इसे एक धर्म विशेष के रूप में देख रहे हैं। परंतु आग हमारे जीवन का एक महत्वपूर्ण हिस्सा है। 

हम इस महामारी से बाहर आएंगे अथवा नहीं इस बात पर निर्भर करता है की संपूर्ण देश को एकजुट होकर एक व्यक्ति की तरह काम करना चाहिए। तो चलिए हम सब एक साथ आए चाहे आप किसी भी धर्म को मानते हो अथवा किसी भी राजनैतिक विचारधारा के हो क्योंकि वायरस आपकी धार्मिक तथा राजनैतिक विचारधारा के अनुसार प्रभाव नहीं डालता इसका प्रभाव किसी व्यक्ति विशेष अथवा धर्म विशेष के आधार पर नहीं होता।

 आज रात 9:00 बजे से भारत के अधिक से अधिक लोगों ने दीप प्रज्वलन के कार्य को एक त्यौहार की तरह मनाया है निश्चित रूप से इसके कुछ दृश्य अत्यंत ही सुखद तथा एक धनात्मक ऊर्जा का प्रवाह रहे हैं।
धन्यवाद। 

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